A Special Request
desigirl | May 9, 2008I had imagined writing this post for the past two weeks, with the words “WAHEY! Sem 2 is officially over and I am F.R.E.E!!!” But this afternoon, on my return from the Uni, S gave me some shocking news he had kept from me for the past couple of days.
We knew this lovely desi couple - hubby worked with S, wife is a bubbly girl, very much non-interfering but fun types. They were expecting their first baby last Friday, May 2. Other friends who had seen her, M, absolutely weighed down with her child, stated that the baby would arrive well before the stipulated date. So we were all surprised when May 2 came and went but the baby didn’t put in her appearance. M was very much in my thoughts on the train home and I told myself sternly to ring and touch base with her this weekend and pass on some mental thoughts to the baby to come out of his/her cozy cocoon straightaway.
But something had gone horribly wrong.
The baby had died in-utero two days back and M was to be induced.
I haven’t spoken with her or other friends yet. I am too shocked for words. I do not know what I am going to say to her. What can anyone say? There was a similar story on Grey’s Anatomy last week, where a woman’s full term baby had died inside and she had to give birth to her stillborn son. I remember getting psyched watching it and wondering why I was doing so. But now, someone I know is going through that.
Please, when you pray next time, please keep M and her family in your thoughts. Somehow help her, her poor hubby and the rest of her family come to terms with this tragedy and find the strength to carry on.
Oh Lord! It is such a sad thing. My heartfelt
Ol' Mate | May 10, 2008 | 12:45 amOh Lord! It is such a sad thing. My heartfelt sorrow to the family with such grave loss.
Oh DG.
B o o. | May 10, 2008 | 5:37 amOh DG.
This is very scary.........you know, when i was doing my
Lavs | May 10, 2008 | 6:16 amThis is very scary………you know, when i was doing my routine doc visits some time during the start of second trimester, a pregnant lady before me lost her child in-utero and did not know about it until she came for her doc visit……my doc panicked and asked me to go immediately for a scan to assertain FH. that incident stayed with me all this while…day before yesterday, when i fell down….the above incident was the one which played in front of my eyes…i got admitted in hospital only to ensure that doc monitor the baby movements…..
tatz really sad, :( will pray for the couple, may they
jane | May 10, 2008 | 12:36 pmtatz really sad,
will pray for the couple, may they be strong!
i always have the chills when it comes to tiny lil’ babies in the tummy, i mean as to how n when n whether they gonna be fine.
anyways,
R.I.P.
I'm so sorry to hear this, DG. All good wishes and
dipali | May 10, 2008 | 6:15 pmI’m so sorry to hear this, DG.
All good wishes and prayers to the poor poor parents. This is just so sad.
DG, so sorry to hear such a sad story. My thoughts
M | May 12, 2008 | 3:11 pmDG,
so sorry to hear such a sad story. My thoughts and prayers with the poor parents.
M
oh, dude.
Amrita | May 12, 2008 | 5:57 pmoh, dude.
So sorry to hear this, what a tragedy! Will keep
K3 | May 12, 2008 | 6:31 pmSo sorry to hear this, what a tragedy! Will keep the family in my prayers!
I am very sorry to hear this. My thoughts and
DotMom | May 12, 2008 | 6:42 pmI am very sorry to hear this. My thoughts and prayers are with the family..
I am very sorry to hear about this. The family
Chakli | May 12, 2008 | 8:05 pmI am very sorry to hear about this. The family must be in such terrible shock. My prayers are with them.
Makes you realize what a miracle birth is. There are so many things that can go wrong with a pregnancy and that if you have a normal healthy delivery then you are really lucky.
shoot.. soo sorry DG..
daisy | May 13, 2008 | 1:02 amshoot.. soo sorry DG..
i forgot to say- will def pray for ur friend..
daisy | May 13, 2008 | 1:05 ami forgot to say- will def pray for ur friend.. u pls dont stress out..
OMG!! Thats so so terrible thing to happen!! I have
~nm | May 13, 2008 | 7:37 amOMG!! Thats so so terrible thing to happen!! I have tears welling up in my eyes thinking about her! How happy and excited she must have been about the arrival of the baby and what all plans she must have been making in her mind and heart!
Uff..why does god do such things!!!
Oh no Oh no Oh no. That sounds awful. All
Poppins | May 13, 2008 | 8:43 amOh no Oh no Oh no. That sounds awful. All preggie women, after week 28, please monitor baby movements morning noon and night. Lie on your left side, after drinking or eating something and count how long it takes to get 10 kicks. If it takes more than an hour, get to a Dr pronto!
Thanks for your comments and prayers, guys. I wanted to
desigirl | May 13, 2008 | 11:58 amThanks for your comments and prayers, guys. I wanted to visit M over the weekend but didn’t want to remind her of what she has just lost so am waiting for at least a fortnight before visiting her. What the hell do I tell her, I wonder.
Sometimes, life sucks all around, I tell ya - BIG TIME.
i think that is the worst... not reminding her... same
the mad momma | May 13, 2008 | 8:01 pmi think that is the worst… not reminding her… same thing happened when a friend lost her son and i was roaming around carrying the bean…
God bless them and may the little one’s soul rest in peace….
Oh DG !! This is heartbreaking. I am so sorry
Gauri | May 14, 2008 | 7:25 amOh DG !! This is heartbreaking.
I am so sorry for your friend - really sorry to hear this. My thoughts and prayers are with the family and may God give them strength to tide over this.
May the little soul rest in peace.
You have little something on my space, check it out!
K3 | May 14, 2008 | 5:52 pmYou have little something on my space, check it out!
Oh my God.
theradicalancient | May 15, 2008 | 3:46 pmOh my God.
Oh DG..this is awful..I dont have any other words to
Random Vignettes | May 15, 2008 | 6:19 pmOh DG..this is awful..I dont have any other words to describe how am feeling right now.
I hear ya..life certainly does suck at times..
U hang in there yea?
One more of nature's rude shocks! May your friends get
nandita | May 18, 2008 | 5:55 amOne more of nature’s rude shocks! May your friends get the strength to overcome this!
are you ever posting again?!!!!!!!!!!!!!! we're waiting you know.
the mad momma | May 18, 2008 | 7:16 pmare you ever posting again?!!!!!!!!!!!!!! we’re waiting you know.
This sure is scary. I know the terror because I
Puja | May 19, 2008 | 8:54 amThis sure is scary. I know the terror because I have faced it quite closely. During ninth month of my pregnancy we realized that the baby hadn’t moved for 3 days. I would give credit to my doctor who helped me through that tough time and led me to the delivery asap. By God’s grace I got blessed with a healthy (though a little underweight) baby. But I would never forget the emotions I went through in that 24hrs span.
May your friend get the strength to overcome the pain, and may the little one’s soul rest in peace.
dear God! this is so sad. :-(( Poor poor M
JLT | May 31, 2008 | 10:02 amdear God! this is so sad. :-(( Poor poor M and her husband. Oh HOW sad!!
Am feeling bad for you too, when you visit her. You will remind her of what she has lost and yet , you do have to go and see her too. Life sucks indeed.