Comments on: Good parents, bad parents

By: the mad momma

the mad momma — Thu, 03 Apr 2008 14:23:34 +0000

i am so itching to do a post on scarlett.. just need to gather my thoughts.

Like Ams asked, who gives a shit about the truckloads of Indian girls who suffer the same fate year after year and not just in Goa? Who champions their cause and gets them justice?
Er, that will be no one, I think.

By: Inba

Inba — Wed, 19 Mar 2008 17:07:12 +0000

I’ve been dying to write on poor Scarlett but putting it off for want of time. As the mother of a teenager almost her age, I do have a lot to say. Sigh. Btw, this panju & neruppu were already afire. This MacKeown woman KNEW her daughter was sleeping with that stud and yet chose to leave her there. Sigh

My mum instilled this 5 pound idea way back during our childhood. Of course, then it was Rs. 10. But it’s not working out with my Paiyan — invariably it gets translated into paneer rolls and bubble gums :-/

Inba, La MacKeown is fast becoming a Heather Mills type - coming up with more and more outlandish statements. She ought to be sent back to her parallel universe pronto.
hmm, paneer rolls or being stuck somewhere? give Paiyyan the choice.

By: dipali

dipali — Wed, 19 Mar 2008 16:14:54 +0000

It is definitely scary, is parenting. As the old saying goes, ‘Put your faith in God, but keep your powder dry”.

Ha ha! good one!

By: Poppins

Poppins — Wed, 19 Mar 2008 09:11:25 +0000

The 5 pounds is a good habit, must remember that. But the second link you’d posted had me going nuts. Really? I didn’t speak to my mom during my 10th boards because she annoyed me after a Math exam, all because I said I hadn’t done as well as I’d expected to (I got an 88 which I was happy with!).

She nagged me a bit as to what that meant and I actually just stopped talking to her and didn’t make up until the end of my exams, I hated her getting upset over MY exams. I can’t even begin to imagine what that poor kid is going though right now.. but seriously, a Doctor??

I know! It sucks to hell and back, doesn’t it? How the hell can you condemn that girl to a fate like this? I know doctors make the worst patients yadda yadda but surely somebody could have seen something and stopped it. Seriously, I cannot wrap my head around it. Poor child - destined to a lifetime of therapy. All for what? Jeez!

By: dipali

dipali — Wed, 19 Mar 2008 08:50:39 +0000

Yes, having that secret stash is so sensible.
Parenting seems to require at least a modicum of common sense.
But if they had a common sense exam, how many parents would pass?
I wonder.

Dipali, this whole parenting lark is such a dicey thing. Who’s to know when something will blow up in our faces?
sigh

By: Amrita

Amrita — Wed, 19 Mar 2008 04:59:09 +0000

DG - my dad has the five pound rule too! except it’s a 20 dollar bill or a hundred rupees.
I’ve been thinking of parenting and what it means all this week. specifically havent been able to get that mother and her family out of my head. I understand she was depressed and probably couldn’t even think of anything but her own pain… but can’t help but think of the child. Poor baby.

Ams - pounds, dollars or rupees, it pays to have that emergency dosh stashed somewhere safe for that rainy day, doesn’t it? I hope to drill that into my kids one day too. Smart man, your dad!

I feel for that girl who left the 2 marks question off and the disastrous ending to that. While I understand the mum was depressed (clearly!), my sympathy lies firmly with those who have to carry that mark and go on with their lives. What are the chances that the girl wouldn’t end up clinically depressed too, and if she did, who could blame her?