Comments on: Letting go is for laters!

By: Gauri

Gauri — Wed, 30 May 2007 07:16:00 +0000

I’d tend to agree with Rohini. Do it when you are comfortable with the idea. Basically don’t force urself into it or rather don’t put urself into a corner just because someone is feeding you a lot of EA (emotional attacks).

By: DesiGirl

DesiGirl — Thu, 24 May 2007 08:17:00 +0000

Rohini, Sunita & itchy,
Thank you all for your comments. Like you say, until I am ready I am not going to force it. But when the subtle guilt is being fed it is rather hard to rake a stand.
But thank you for your wonderful words! Insecure mums - we should form a club!!

By: itchingtowrite

itchingtowrite — Wed, 23 May 2007 05:56:00 +0000

no you are not .. being clingy i mean.. I too hav strong views against letting them stay away in the nite.. though she insists taking one of them away everytime K is travelling as it is dificult to make them sleep together. but even if i hav to stay awake the entire nite i do not let go. except off course when i am travelling- happened that twice/. take it easy. do it when u r ready. and never feel uncertain abt your child’s love for u. it is too strong and inherent to be gone just by staying away for a day… rather night… ok.. what am i preaching.. i must be one of the most insecure moms in the whole world!!

By: Sunita

Sunita — Wed, 23 May 2007 05:06:00 +0000

I can so relate to what you saying here. my mil had plans of going off for a vacation to our native place with my not-even-a-year baby. can you imagine?? ofcourse I argued & yelled back for that ridiculous offer. (but it was just a dig i realized latter)
Leaving our child in their care for x number of hours is very different from they taking our child off for a whole day or more.

By: Rohini

Rohini — Tue, 22 May 2007 18:10:00 +0000

Do it whenever you feel ready. Since I work, I left Ayaan overnight when he was just over a year and despite all my anxiety and guilt, my husband and he got along quite fine without me.